Inspiration – journey through the thickness by Salma

Salaam ladies,

Sometimes the shine in our journey is only given after we’re shaken and stirred. Here’s a wondrous example of just that given by our very own Salma :

My hijab journey started when I was 25 years old, after my wedding in the summer of 1981. I said summer because I got married in Sheffield UK, the same summer Princess Diana married Prince Charles. While theirs was the wedding of the year befitting their royal status held in the church, ours was one of simpletons held in the house of the Imam of the Islamic center. The royal wedding was witnessed by the whole world while ours had the obligatory two adult Muslim male witnesses, and his curious young children. The royalties had their grand wedding banquet with guests made up of the world’s head of States and royalties whilst for our ‘walimah’, there were just the four of us, eating lunch at an Indian Restaurant.
My husband of two weeks old had already graduated from his engineering school but I have one more year to go. After receiving the royal command from his patriotic marine policeman father, who wants him to come home and find a job and serve the nation, the filial son felt that it was an order he could not simply ignore despite being oceans away.
So obviously it was a sad day when I waved him goodbye at the train station, him heading to London, to catch his flight to Kuala Lumpur (KL).
All alone without my husband, I was confident that I could cope, having got used to being independent since I was 15 years old when I went to boarding school and at 18, straight to UK to further my studies. I grew up quite fast during that decade of my teenage years.
Then, suddenly someone else started to enter prominently into my life. I consider myself to be an amiable person, making friends easily with everybody. So this someone whom I will name as Mr X, like everybody else, became a casual acquaintance. He was one of hundreds of my classmates during our first year at the university. We met on many occasions and I thought nothing of it. But one year later, right after my husband left for home, Mr X, gained enough courage to approach me and tell me he had feelings for me. I told him I am married, showed him the ring on my finger and left him immediately, not willing to have any further discussion with him. That was the beginning of my nightmare. He started stalking me every where I go. After a few months of that, I decided to wear my hijab in an effort to put him off. It did not. I tried to get help from the Uni counsellor, my friends, nothing seems to work. Soon after, some how, he found out where I lived and he started knocking on my doors. When I peeped through the letter box, I saw it was him. I told him to leave but he kept on knocking and knocking and knocking and after what seemed like hours, he left. Then he would come again and knocked tirelessly on the letter box and this went on for months. I was going crazy and as my final exams drew near, I became desperate. I decided to move out temporarily from my flat. I approached a group of muslimah living in the same block of council flats and asked if I could bunk in with them until the exams are over. They were kind enough to oblige.
Wearing the hijab was at first my defence strategy against the stalker but consequently it brought with it a change in my behaviour. I now cut ties with my mostly non-muslim friends, which did concern them. I was now living with my Muslim sisters, who belonged to a close knit community of Muslim Malaysians. It was not hard for me to begin adapting to the Muslim way of life the muslimahs were practising. I was a born again Muslim. The apparent ease of my transformation perhaps is due to my religious upbringing in a small village in Kuala Pilah, Negeri Sembilan. My mother brought us up as Muslims, taught us to read the Qur’an, taking us to the nearby musolah regularly, making it much our second home and playground. My father was a strong and strict head of family who led many jemaah prayers. So, when you got distracted or lost your way, culture-shocked by life in a Western, non-muslim society, the mini compass in your heart, will help direct you back to the straight path.
The beginning of my hijab journey turned my life a 180 degree whilst on the other side of the world, my husband’s life continued on cruise, from when I saw him last at the train station. The divide was not just physical this time but unknowingly to both of us, it was also spiritual. His world view remained as different to mine like chalk and cheese. His late mom believed that I could change him. I was so sure I could change him, with my love for him. How terribly wrong we both were. He was very disappointed with me wearing the hijab right the moment he read my letter telling him about it. It became even more disappointing to him, to see me all covered up as I stepped off the plane at Subang Airport. His disapproval of my total demeanour and my steadfastness in keeping to the Deen, remained solid throughout our marriage. He tried several times to get me to tone down my ‘extreme’ Islamic way of life. I did relent some what in the way I wore the hijab but when he told me to remove the hijab all together that was where I drew the line. When my first born arrived the spiritual divide got even bigger than the Grand Canyon, due to our differences in the way we want to bring up our daughter. If not for his vision, wisdom and extreme patience, we would have ended our marriage right after one of such arguments but lived together we did, me bringing up my family my way and him, putting up with us and sufferring in silence. Fast forward 25 years later, after the youngest of my four girls had completed her secondary school at Form Five, my husband told me he doesn’t want to remain married to me anymore. He has fulfilled his obligations and now it was time for him to find his own happiness.
When we got divorced, everyone was surprised. We were supposed to be the ideal couple and the ideal family. On the bright side, no sooner had I lost the one man in my life, Allah replaced me with 4; my 3 loving sons-in-law and my grandson. Allah has since blessed my life many fold. Alhamdulillah

Salma you are such a blessing to have and your journey explains it all. May your love for Allah always grow and flourish in your legacy ❤️

Inspiration – Fairuza hijab journey

Hey ladies,

Fairuza was honoured with the opportunity to start us off with the hijab journeys. What a great journey it was indeeDo. Let’s take a look at this superstars journey and how she found hijab.

My Hijab Journey – 3rd April 2018
Tomorrow will mark the 9th year of me wearing the hijab, Alhamdulillah. I will use the term ‘hijab’ here to mean the piece of cloth that covers my head.
I was not brought up as a hijabi. I was like any other normal kid living in modern Singapore, going to secular government schools. Our school uniform was always knee-length and short-sleeved. The only option we had was to put on long pants during our PE lessons. I was always into sports and had participated in various sporting activities.
In school, I was a school swimmer, which meant that the attire did not conform to a Muslimah’s proper dress code. I was also in the school Netball team, where we competed with teams on a national level. We had to wear the netball skirts during tournaments, which just about covered our bum area. I was also in the track and field team and each time we participated in a national event, we would have to wear the runner’s attire, which was a sleeveless tee and really short shorts.
My mum was very strict about what I wore, especially so when I was in my teens, which was also when I got more and more involved in sports. Once she saw the netball skirt I was about to wear and she said she wanted me out of the team if I had to wear that. I couldn’t quit because I was the captain! So I would leave the house in my tracksuit pants, then go to the nearby mall and change into the netball skirt before heading to the competition venue. I went to great lengths to hide it from my mother because I knew she was serious about having me quit all sports if she were to see me dressed that way. I then, got more involved in competitive rock climbing. While the attire was not as revealing, the harnesses we had to wear accentuated our bum area even more so. Not very shariah-compliant.
Even though my mum was strict, she had never forced me to wear the hijab, unless we were going for religious classes etc. Therefore, I had never felt pressured to wear the hijab as my lifestyle was not very accomodating to donning it.
Later on, in my adulthood, I took up scuba diving which became something I fell completely in love with. That was also around the time I had just gotten married. My husband was my dive buddy and we planned our honeymoon and all other vacations centred around diving. It was not a holiday if we had not dived.
My husband then started to learn more in depth about the deen and felt compelled to have me embrace the hijab. I however, brushed it aside time and time again, thinking that I want to wear it for the right reasons. So I made excuses for myself. I told him that i felt unprepared to wear it, because the hijab is a strong symbol of Islam, and if I were to wear it, I would be an ambassador of Islam, which was an image I felt was not befitting me due to how little I knew of the religion. The truth was, I felt the hijab would restrict me of the lifestyle I was enjoying. I wanted to carry on rock climbing and scuba diving.
My husband didn’t buy that of course. His approach from the beginning was a casual mention of hijab, then a suggestion, followed by a request and eventually after a few years, he got pretty mad and said that he had every right to force me to wear as he is the husband and I am to obey. I was running out of excuses by then and knew I was pushing it a bit too far.
During this time, I was doing my Diploma in PE. In a week, I was doing 4 hours of hockey, 4 hours of soccer, 4 hours of gymnastics, 3 hours of badminton and a few other games. It was strenuous and gruelling and I felt the hijab would definitely not fit into this equation. However, in the same class with me, was a sister named Aisha. She would come for classes in the morning with her hijab on, then change to a more breathable bandana when we had physical activities. For 2 years, while the rest of us constantly complained of how hot and sweaty we felt after class, I noticed she had not joined us in these complains and I observed how naturally the hijab was to her and how she did not let it affect or restrict her active lifestyle. I was inspired and intrigued.
That was when I decided to take upon one of the most monumental change in my life. I set a date for myself and worked towards it. I bought more long sleeved tops and started collecting hijabs and experimented with the styles. When the actual date came, I wore it out for a picnic outing with friends. I felt so self conscious but when everyone saw me, they smiled but didn’t say anything. The looks of horror and disgust which I had anticipated did not become reality. I was treated like I always was.
My second day, I went for a badminton session with some friends and it was HOT! But I told myself that this is a commitment that I want to stick to till the end no matter what.
There were many adjustments I had to make after putting on the hijab. I was still active but had to choose my sport. By far, the biggest sacrifice I had to make was scuba diving. Even though there were covered-up versions of the wet-suits, it was still figure-hugging. The lifestyles of divers were not always very Islamic. There were constantly girls in bikinis sharing the same boat and the guys around were always with beer in hand. These were not the kind of companions I wanted to surround myself with.
It was painful but I had to reassure myself that I am doing this for Allah and I know that when I make it to Jannah, He will give me something far better to replace this.
Shortly after, I gave birth to my daughter and gave her the name of the person who had inspired me in my hijab journey, Aisha.
May Allah keep us firm in this path always. Allahuma Ameen 🙏

Inspiration – Liny’s Hijab Discovery

Last week our beautiful friend Liny, shared her discovery to her Hijab identity. Her story is as follows :

My hijab journey

I did not really start wearing my Hijab until I was 20. When I was small, hijab was known to me as a small scarf to cover my hair, tied around my neck whenever I went to my Quran class. Then, when I started going to after school Islamic classes, hijab to me was just a uniform to comply with the religious school requirement. Hijab was also a piece of shawl that I put on loosely on my head during certain occasions, religious events or during Eid.
I remember when I was 18, during my first year of my pre-degree programme, I received an unexpected visit from my late grandmother. Before she left, she said to me in a soft but firm voice, “You are a big girl now. It’s about time that you put on your hijab”. Back then, she was the only one in the family who said something about out it. I wasn’t compelled to wear the hijab by my parents either, so I didn’t really pay much attention to it. To me it was too soon. I was active in so many activities and I was enjoying my university life. In my mind, hijab would just restrict me from all that.
Two years later, during my first year of degree programme, I suddenly thought of wearing hijab full time. But I wasn’t really sure why though. While there were some girls in my classmates who wear hijab, most of the girls in my circle of friends didn’t, so there was no peer pressure to follow anyone. But I was going through a phase of emotional struggle. My parents were getting a divorce. I was not happy with how things were going. So probably, back then, it was just me searching for something to fill that emptiness or just an urge to do something different. So, on the first day of Syawal in 1991, I put on my hijab. To others, they saw a transformation in me. But, when I looked back and reflect, honestly, I didn’t feel a real connection to my hijab then. I wore it without a full understanding of what hijab really means. Yes, there was a transformation, but it was just physical. It was like I was just making a different fashion statement. But I was not prepared to change my other aspects of life. And one of it is my involvement in music
I grew up with music. Not just listening to it, but very much involved in it. I went to music class since I was six. We used to have our own music studio at the back our house with a full band of musical instruments. We have our own band and I was one of the lead singer. During university years, I was the singer for the college band. I was part of the choir group. I participated in various music competitions. I was a singer and gamelan player for my college traditional music group. Music was not just a hobby, it was very much part of me.
​When I started working and after getting married, my music activities gradually slowed down. When my husband and started our journey to rediscover Islam, we began to realise how far we were from practicing the true Islam. And that was when I began to internalise that hijab is not just a piece of cloth on my head. It’s a way of life. Just because I had covered my hair, it doesn’t mean that I have fulfilled the hijab requirement as commanded by Allah. Hijaab is the way I talk, the way I look at things…..what I listen to….the way I walk….the way I carry myself. Indeed, hijab is a way of life.
Realising this, we started to make changes; we started to filter the kind of tv programmes that we watch, things that we listened to, places that we go to. At that time, I was still wearing pant suit to work, short jackets and shirts. I gradually changed my wardrobe and started to buy long dresses and abayas. That was how my little abaya business started. My colleagues started approaching me asking me about my abayas, so I started to source for abayas and sell them at affordable price to help others sisters. More and more people in office started wearing abayas. Alhamdulillah, gradually, Allah took away from my heart the love towards music. Something which I initially thought was hard for me to detach from.
The journey was a slow and gradual process for my family. Since the first day of wearing hijab, 22 years ago, my perspective towards it has also changed. It began as a physical transformation. However, over the years, as I began to internalise its true meaning, hijab changed me from inside. Hijab is not just a a symbol of me being a muslim, it is not just a physical covering. It’s also about putting hijab on my eyes, my ears,my tongue, my heart. It’s about fighting my own desire to fulfill the command of Allah. It is a manifestation of my love, hope and fear towards my Creator.
I believe each and every one of us who are on this road, has gone through so many challenges. We may not be at the same phase or facing the same issues, but I know for sure, the struggle is real. Therefore, whenever we look at another person who has yet wearing a hijab, do not judge. It does not make that person any less muslim than us. We should instead continue to encourage and support each other.

Liny
25 April 2018

Inspiration – overstimulation and speaking to other by Maryam

In a vicious circle, the exhausting fast pace of life promotes overstimulation and overscheduling, which become chronic stressors that lead to behavioral, mood and attention disorders. We cannot see that we are causing our physical, emotional and behavioral health problems as we try harder to go faster, and then turn to medication to treat the unforeseen consequences. We believe we should be able to go this fast and there is something wrong with us if we can’t keep up.
We also see changes in our attention and thinking. Technological advances were supposed to free up creative thinking, but the mass of incoming information has actually eroded our attention and our creativity. People have less time to reflect on anything as they become dominated by a need to act, a need to be online, robotically always checking. Multi-tasking stimulates internal chaos and fragmented attention.
It may also interrupt and diminish learning, productivity and even friendships. Switching your attention reduces your efficiency and skill. You can’t concentrate on anything.
So, try interrupting your impulsive behavior. Turn off your phone for one hour each day to focus on a book, conversation with your family or friends, or to cook a meal. A small start is your best next step and it counts.
In this article I’d like to talk about how spending more time, thinking critically, and slowing ourselves down can be an amazing way to teach others. Alhamdulilah, in the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we have the best of example of a teacher.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam didn’t just teach his children; he also taught his wives, his companions, community leaders, and many others. When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught, he was careful to build relationships with his students, emphasize important points, and tailor his lessons in a way so the person listening would understand his message.
InshaAllah by reflecting on some of his methods, we can find the keys to unlock our own teaching potential with our children.
Teaching by Parables, Narratives and Stories
Parables and narratives are illustrative tales used to teach moral concepts and they were a common method used by the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
An example of a parable used by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with regards to prayer is narrated by Abu Bakr, radiAllahu anhu, in Sahih Muslim.
Abu Bakr, said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah saying: ‘Behold! Can any dirt remain on the body of any one of you if there were a river at his door in which he washed himself five times daily? They said: No dirt would remain. He, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: That is like the five daily prayers by which Allah obliterates sins.”
Teaching by Oaths
At times, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would get his students’ attention and emphasise important lessons by beginning with an oath.
In Sahih Bukhari it’s reported that the Prophet said, “By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe! It was said: ‘Who is that person, O Allah’s Messenger?’ He answered: That person is he whose neighbor does not feel safe from his evil.”
Teaching Gradually
Rather than immediately impose rules and laws on the people who accepted Islam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught the religion gradually focusing on building a person’s belief before anything else.
An excellent example of this was when the prohibition for alcohol was announced, the companions (due to the strength of their faith) immediately disposed of all the alcoholic drinks they owned to the point that the alcohol was seen “flowing through the streets of Medina (Sahih Bukhari).”
Teaching by Offering Alternatives
When correcting people’s mistakes, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would offer positive alternatives to help improve behavior and practice, as opposed to just criticizing for the wrong that was done.
Once the Prophet saw some sputum in the direction of the qibla (direction of the Kabbah) and it upset him so much that his anger could be seen on his face. After removing the spit with his own hand, he told the people: “When any one of you stands up to pray, he is talking to his Lord. His Lord is between him and the qibla, so no one should spit in the direction of the qibla; he should spit to his left or under his feet (Sahih Bukhari).”

Inspiration By Rina

Recap of our inspiration: As expected our lovely Rina hit a very much needed topic of Spiritual Hijra. She started off by connecting us with New Years and said that when New Years roles around we make all kinds of resolutions for change, to become better in areas that need us to grow. Because inside each of us there is s certain craving of spirituality it is essential that we quench our spirituality by wanting to create resolutions that will aid us in moving forward with our faith.

 

There were 3 components that Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had when He had to make his Hijra from Makkah to Medina:

 

1. He had a clear goal; which was to get the muslims to medina safely
2. He had a clear plan (included strategies and had God’s blessings)
3. And He had a companion (his best friend Abu Bakr)

 

When we have spiritual resolutions we should also include those 3 components (to help facilitate success rates) ; A goal, A plan and at least one companion.

 

Rina advised us with 3 golden rules 1)never miss a Fardh prayer. Commit ourselves from the hijra of our beds to looking passed the comforts of our bed or the self consciousness at work and be confident in our prayers. 2) Tahajjud (middle of the night prayers ), an essential part of our deen. Read 2 passages from the quran about tahajjuds virtue and all it takes is sacrificing 15 minutes before the actual time of fajr, a tahajjud buddy to help give us support for this beautiFul cause, reading about its virtue (to help remind ourselves) of how rewarding it really is, going to bed early will help us and remember that at first though it may seem inconvenient after some time we will look forward to these silent prayer times and rejuvenate ourselves with it.
And lastly 3) behaviour. Rina gently read how beautifying our mannerisms is also something very virtuous, we should be able to creatively bring people towards the masjids and Allah. Ignite joy and love in our environments and recognize the beauty of life in all conditions.

 

Thank you Rina, it is a much needed topic and we appreciate you raising our awareness and sharing strategies to help us succeed. 🙂

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Inspiration – Salma

Salaam ladies,

Recap of this week’s inspiration ; done by our very own inspirational Salma

Salma spoke to us about Living a sunnah lifestyle. What is meant by sunnah is simply anything the Prophet( saw) said, did, or approved.
She encouraged us to Follow His example routinely, as he is not only our Prophet, but the most successful man who ever lived both in this world and the hereafter. Salma wonderfully started giving us examples that will help as a guidance. The examples are listed as follows ;

-He structured his days around prayer time rather than structure prayer around his days. He never wasted time and utilised it at his best.
– divide different parts of the day
1. Fajr to sunrise
– wake up
*make dua
*siwak
*wudu
*sunnah Fajr prayer (it is said that the sunnah of fajr is more beloved than all that is in the heavens and on earth)
* encourage masjid (husbands and sons) for Fajr
*wives stay and pray at home (pray all fard in congregation with children if possible- as it helps with their upbringing)
*azkar after salaah (azkar can be found in the book fortress of a Muslim)
*morning azkar reward as if you went for haj and umrah with the Prophet sallahu alaihi wassalam. This is gained only if you sat after fajr to do the fajr azkar followed by the morning azkar/sit in the masjid until the sunrise (shuru’) and pray 2 rakaat solat shuru’/dhuha
*breakfast/fast

2. Sunrise to zuhur
* this is the time the main activity of the day should take place
– work, school, etc
-dhuha prayer minimum 2, max 8/12
*spend quality time with family
*exercise
*visit (family/friends/the sick) /charity work
*a nap before zuhur/power nap(refreshes you for more task/helps in getting up for midnight prayer)

3. Zuhur to Asar
*sunnah zuhur prayer 4 rakaat before zuhur 2 rakaat after
*zuhur
*religious knowledge – study circle/listening to Islamic lectures/read

4. Asar to maghrib
*4 rakaat sunnah prayer before asar
*pray asar in, at the beginning of time
*spend time with family
*evening azkar esp on fridays

5. Maghrib to isha’
*2 rakaat sunnah before maghrib prayer and 2 rakaat after maghrib
*solat maghrib
*dinner with family
– have pleasant conversation
– teach good manners of eating
– saying Bismillah
– eating with the right hand/with three fingers
– eating from what’s next to you
– do not criticise the food but praise good food
– if invited to dinner by a friend/other family members make do not forget to make dua for the host
– if you have guests, give them more food
– never recline when eating, it is a sign of arrogance
– never over eat
– saying Alhamdulillah after eating/licking your fingers after eating even though some might think it is a sign of bad manners, it is a sunnah

6. Isha’ to midnight
* again, encourage husbands and sons in masjid
*delay isha’ prayer
*pray 2 rakaat sunnah prayer after isha’ (husbands and sons at home)
*spend quality time with family/spouse
*azkar before sleeping
*sleep after isha and wake up after midnight for night prayer
– use siwak
– pray easy 2 rakaats to start with then get into longer ones
– waking up family to pray witr
– go back to sleep till fajr

Here are some other well-known virtues;
– reward of a palace in Jannah if you prayed the 12 sunnah prayers (the prayers before and after the fard prayers) which are
2 rakaat before fajr
4 rakaat before dzuhr
2 rakaat after dzuhr
2 rakaat after maghrib
2 rakaat after isha’

However for a married Muslimah, if you pray the 5 fard prayers, fast during Ramadhan, guard your private parts and obey your husband, when you die and your husband is pleased with you, the 8 doors of Jannah is open for you, and you get to choose which ever door you want to enter from – Sahih Hadith from Bukhari.

Thank you Salma, this is one of THE best topics and we appreciate all these beautiful reminders. ❤️

Jazakillah Salma

Inspiration – Maryam

Salaam lovelies,

Time for a recap of this week’s inspiration ;

Our lovely speaker this week was Maryam who spoke very passionately about not thinking that we are ‘mere housewives’ ever.
“In these times people tend to look at women and ask what kind of education do you have, “ she started off (attribution to us only through our achievements academically) “when life really requires us to learn through our living”. An education doesn’t prepare you for life, it doesn’t prepare you for cooking, raising children, or what’s expected of you as the woman of the house. Therefore women should not be attributed or made to look successful solely through academic achievements, because our success will depend on education, yes, but education on preparing for our actual living situations. She gave us an example on her own personal experience with her 2 small children and how she had to learn to cope with decluttering and managing household items i.e: toys etc….so she educated herself and conquered management of her home. Not for a moment think that you’re alone in your specific situation, there are billions of people out there, chances are someone is facing the same challenges as you are and no matter what your achievements are academically, as women, we are far more than just a ‘housewife’ (who came up with that term anyway?!) you are a manager, therapist, an educator, a nurse, but more importantly you are a nation builder. 🙂

Maryam, you are one marvellous lady and your inspiration was very moving. we appreciated your reassurance that we can be a lot by simply being ourselves 🙂

Inspiration- June

Salaam beautiful ladies,

 

This week’s inspiration was done by none other than our phenomenal June.

Though  she looks not a day passed 35, She enlightened us this week on what it’s like to reach the ‘Big 5-0’.

“When you reach 50 everything changes” ” she explained, suddenly when you reach 50 you may feel extremely tired & extremely drained and then went on to emphasize the importance of continuing our journey with staying active from now. At least if you give yourself a head start when you’re younger you will be investing in your future self.

June went on to speak about gratitude and the small things we might take for granted. Explaining that something that might seem so small, like reading Quran, to us, are HUGE blessings that are only wished upon by others. June gave us a detailed story about a woman in her country who due to legalities was not allowed to even own a quranic app on her phone and due to a series of unfortunate events there are people who are innocently put in jail for as much as 10 years for something that we take for granted here . Something for us all to ponder about.

 

Thank you June, very touching

 

 

Inspiration

Recap of this week I got a chance to speak to you ladies and give some inspiration on feeling better about ourselves.

The first point thing requested was to say alhamdulillah as much as you can (not intended to preach-fact); gratitude attracts more things to be grateful for.
2. lower your gaze even when it comes to other women, I gave you a few studies that proved that when women look at those fashion magazines, or actresses then we unintentionally tend to lower our own self esteem in the process.
3. Dress up! Wear makeup, heels (if u may) etc.. When you look good u feel better. Plus it’s free rewards when we dress up for our husbands ;). I did mention ALMOST ALL men feed off of Ur confidence….doesn’t matter what u look like just being confident is the single most attractive feature of a woman.
4. Remember we are a team. Sometimes when we feel low then we tend to be a bit more critical and judgemental of others. Revert back to saying alhamdulillah if that’s the case. Remember that we are all one team I.e: a football team if they’re picking on each other they won’t move forward. If someone has a talent that you don’t, be happy for them because that’s your team.
5. It’s been proven time and again that the happiest people are the ones who build others. So go ahead and shoot the compliments around, mentor someone, and just build your team
6. Finally, did 2 hijab tutorials – hope you ladies enjoyed it and remember them